Heal your Wounds and the Wounds of the World

Healing Frequencies

About two years after 9/11, I had a vision of billions of people flooding the streets in every corner of the world, demanding an end to violence and war. I did not experience this vision as a prediction. I experienced it as a revelation of something possible in the human heart: a longing for another way of living together.

That vision has stayed with me for more than twenty years. So has the question beneath it: What would have to change in us—and between us—for the cycles of violence that have marked human history to begin to loosen their grip?

I have been asking some version of that question since I was five years old, sitting in front of the television as images of the Vietnam War entered our home night after night. I remember asking my father, “Why do we kill people? Why is there war? Why can’t we give money to the other side to end it?”

It was the reasoning of a child who assumed there must be some way to stop something so terrible. More than sixty years later, the question itself has never left me.

My life has taken me into the academic study of history, political systems and violence; into my own long journey of healing; into decades of spiritual study and practice; and eventually into nearly twenty years of accompanying others through profound processes of healing and transformation. Each of these paths has taught me something different about violence. Together, they have led me to understand that we cannot entirely separate the violence we see in the world from the wounds human beings carry within themselves.

This does not mean that war, oppression, injustice, or other forms of collective violence can be reduced to individual psychology or healed simply by individuals doing their inner work. Violence is also embedded in institutions, political systems, histories, economies, ideologies, and structures of power. But those systems are created, inhabited, sustained, resisted, and transformed by human beings.

And human beings carry wounds.

We carry the wounds of what has happened to us personally. We can carry wounds transmitted through families and generations. We live within societies marked by histories of war, enslavement, genocide, displacement, persecution, domination, and other forms of violence whose consequences do not simply disappear when the event itself is over.

What happens to those wounds when they remain unhealed?

That question lies at the heart of my work.

What Does Healing Have to Do with Violence?

When I look deeply into my own heart and mind, I can see some of the movements that suffering can set in motion: fear, grief, anger, mistrust, the desire to protect myself, the impulse to divide the world into those who are safe and those who are dangerous.

I can feel in myself how easily the heart can begin to harden.

That hardening is understandable. When we have been harmed, betrayed, frightened, or overwhelmed, some part of us may decide that the world is dangerous and that safety depends upon vigilance, control, withdrawal, or power over what threatens us.

But what begins as protection can become a way of living.

We may begin to create enemies in our minds. We may become more certain that other people cannot be trusted. We may cling more tightly to identities that tell us who belongs and who does not. Fear can become anger; anger can become hatred; and hatred can make another human being increasingly difficult to see in the fullness of their humanity.

None of this means that people who have been wounded inevitably become violent. Nor does it mean that healing ourselves will somehow bring an end to war. Human beings and societies are far more complex than that.

It means something both simpler and more demanding: if we want to understand the violence of the world, we must be willing to look not only outward, but inward.

That is one of the places where the Way of Love-Light begins.

Love Is Not an Escape from the World

The Way of Love-Light begins with a teaching that is simple to say and far more difficult to live: Love is in Everything.

By Love, I do not mean sentimentality, niceness, or the demand that we feel warmly toward everyone. I do not mean looking away from cruelty or injustice, denying anger, or using spirituality to avoid the realities of the world. I mean something much more fundamental.

What I call Love-Light is the living ground of existence itself. It is the sacred current moving through life, including through us. We do not create it. We learn to recognize it, to come back into relationship with it, and increasingly to allow it to shape how we live.

This becomes especially difficult when we encounter violence.

When another human being causes terrible harm, our attention is naturally drawn toward the harm and toward the person or people who have caused it. We may feel horror, grief, outrage, or anger. There are times when we must resist what is happening, protect those who are being harmed, speak truthfully about injustice, and hold people and institutions accountable for their actions.

Love does not ask us to abandon any of this. It asks something harder.

It asks whether we can confront violence without allowing violence to determine who we become.

This is one of the great challenges of peacemaking in our hearts and minds and in action in the world. Violence does not end with the violent act itself. It reverberates. It leaves wounds in individuals, families, communities, and societies. Fear can produce more fear. Humiliation can produce rage. Grief can harden into hatred. People who have been harmed can begin to organize their lives around the expectation of further harm.

Over generations, these patterns can become woven into families, communities, institutions, cultural narratives, and collective memory. The original event may be long past, while its consequences remain very much alive.

This is why healing matters.

Healing does not replace political action, social change, justice, accountability, or peacemaking. Nor does it require us to forgive what we are not ready to forgive or reconcile with people who remain dangerous.

Healing addresses another part of the problem: what violence leaves behind in the human heart, body, mind, and spirit.

If those wounds remain untouched, they can continue shaping how we see ourselves, other people, and the world. They can narrow what we believe is possible. They can teach us that domination is strength, vulnerability is dangerous, difference is threatening, and violence is simply the way human beings are.

What I call the Way of Love-Light asks us to interrupt that inheritance.

It asks us to enter the places where fear, grief, anger, separation, and suffering live—not so that we can become endlessly preoccupied with our wounds, but so that our wounds do not unconsciously determine what we bring into the world.

And this is where personal healing begins to become something larger than personal.

Healing the Wounds We Carry

Some wounds belong unmistakably to our own lives. We know the experiences that created them: abuse, neglect, betrayal, abandonment, violence, loss, humiliation, or the many other ways human beings can be overwhelmed by what has happened to them.

But our personal stories do not begin with us.

We are born into families that already have histories. Those histories contain love, resilience, wisdom, creativity, and strength. They may also contain losses that were never grieved, violence that was never spoken about, secrets carried for generations, and ways of surviving that once made sense but continued long after the original danger had passed.

We are also born into larger histories. War, enslavement, colonization, genocide, displacement, racism, persecution, political repression, and other forms of collective violence can leave consequences that extend beyond those who directly experienced them. They remain present in family stories and silences, cultural memory, institutions, social structures, and the ways subsequent generations learn to understand safety, belonging, identity, and power.

This is one reason I have never understood healing as an exclusively individual undertaking.

My shamanic healing work has taught me to that often personal woundings reach back further in families--often beyond the reach of memory. My academic work taught me to look at the larger historical and cultural forces in which individual lives unfold. And my own healing journey taught me something more intimate: history is not simply something that happened somewhere else, to other people, in another time. We live inside its consequences.

Healing asks us to become curious about what we are carrying. What fear have I inherited? What grief was never grieved? What beliefs about safety, power, belonging, or other human beings have been handed to me? What happened in my family that no one knew how to heal? And what am I carrying forward simply because no one before me knew how to put it down?

These are not questions of blame. They are questions of consciousness.

We cannot transform what we are unwilling to encounter. But neither are we meant to remain forever inside the wound. Healing allows us to recover more of who we are beneath what happened to us and what was handed down to us. As we become less governed by unhealed wounds, we have greater freedom to choose what we will carry forward.

That is where healing begins to interrupt the cycle of violence.

Healing Is Not the End of the Journey

Healing gives us greater freedom in how we respond to the world.

When we are less governed by fear, old wounds, and inherited patterns, we have more capacity to remain present when something frightens or angers us. We can recognize the impulse to make an enemy of another person without automatically following it. We can speak against harm without reproducing the dehumanization we oppose. We can act from greater clarity about what is ours to do.

This does not make us passive. Quite the opposite.

Love is not weak. The traditions of nonviolence embodied by Mahatma Gandhi and Martin Luther King Jr. remind us that Love can be fierce, courageous, and demanding. It does not require us to turn away from suffering or injustice. It asks us to meet them without becoming what we oppose.

This is where healing and action meet.

The purpose of healing is not to perfect ourselves before we enter the world. Nor is it to retreat into an endless project of self-improvement. We heal so that more of who we truly are becomes available to participate in life.

For some of us, that participation may take the form of public action or leadership. For others, it may unfold in our families, communities, professions, creative work, spiritual lives, or the ways we meet the people directly in front of us. Healing does not dictate what we must do. It gives us greater freedom to discover how we want to live and what we are called to contribute.

More than twenty years ago, I saw in a vision billions of people throughout the world calling for an end to violence and war. This has happened in actual fact. I believe it is because of how many people have awakened to the need to heal personal and ancestral wounds and have entered into that work with determination.

Every time we refuse to allow an old wound to determine how we treat another human being, something changes. Every time we choose truth without dehumanization, courage without domination, boundaries without hatred, or action without abandoning Love, we interrupt an ancient pattern.

This is the work of the Way of Love-Light: not to withdraw from a wounded world, but to enter it more fully awake to who we are and to how we choose to live.

We heal our wounds not only for ourselves, but so that we do not keep handing them to the world.

That, to me, is where healing becomes an act of peace.

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